I was first introduced to Buddhism during a course in college on world religions. I was raised Lutheran but was so confused and questioning of it my entire childhood.

Nothing seemed to fit, however, until I began to be introduced to Buddhism. At first it was Insight Meditation, and then I moved to a town where the only Buddhist community was a Tibetan Buddhist Center.

For Jude and Emma, Buddhism is not simply a practice that happens on the meditation cushion—it has become part of their marriage, parenting, careers, and everyday relationships. Raised in Catholic families in Kansas, their spiritual journeys gradually led them toward Buddhism, from early encounters with Zen to Tibetan Buddhist teachings, meditation, sangha, and the exploration of emptiness and interdependence. Over more than two decades of marriage, their Buddhist paths have evolved in different ways. Jude remains drawn to the discipline and simplicity of Zen alongside Tibetan Buddhist philosophy, while Emma finds meaning in mindfulness, community, and bringing Buddhist practice into ordinary human connection. Rather than pulling them apart, these differences have become part of their practice together. Through marriage, raising children, navigating careers, and confronting the inevitable conflicts of family life, Jude and Emma have discovered that some of Buddhism’s deepest teachings are revealed through relationship. Their story explores what it means to move Buddhist practice beyond the cushion—to see marriage as a practice of letting go, parenting as an opportunity for mindfulness, and interdependence not simply as Buddhist philosophy, but as something lived every day.

Shinchok’s spiritual journey began with questioning. Raised Roman Catholic in a traditional Italian-American community in Springfield, Massachusetts, she challenged religious expectations from an early age and eventually left the Church while retaining an appreciation for the sense of community it offered. Her search led her through Zen, Hindu philosophy, meditation, Spiritualism, and an exploration of teachings surrounding death and consciousness. Eventually, Tibetan Buddhism opened another doorway, bringing together her longstanding curiosity about consciousness with a more disciplined contemplative path. Throughout her journey, Shinchok was less interested in accepting beliefs at face value than in discovering what could be known through direct experience. At the heart of Shinchok’s story is a lifelong search for an inner happiness that remains present beneath the changing conditions of anger, sadness, grief, and everyday life. Encounters with meditation masters helped convince her that this clarity was not simply an abstract spiritual idea, but something that could be embodied through sustained practice. Her journey reflects one of the central themes of Beyond the Cushion: spiritual practice becomes meaningful not simply because we inherit a tradition or believe its teachings, but because we test those teachings against our own experience and allow practice to transform how we meet our lives.

For Willy and Kim, Buddhism is not something practiced only on the meditation cushion—it is a path lived through relationship, creativity, community, and the challenges of everyday life. Willy’s journey began with a search that took him beyond intellectual knowledge, through India, encounters with spiritual teachers, and eventually into Tibetan Buddhism, where Ngöndro, Mahamudra, lineage, and Sangha became central to his practice. Kim’s path carries a different thread. Her earliest connection to Buddhism came through her Korean grandmother, but it was through art—and eventually her relationship with Willy—that Buddhism became a living spiritual practice. For Kim, creativity opens a doorway beyond the limited self, while Buddhist teachings on emptiness and impermanence offer a framework for understanding the freedom and possibility she encounters through art. Together, Willy and Kim reveal what happens when Buddhist practice enters the intimacy of a relationship. Meditation gives them space to step outside conflict, recognize habitual patterns, take responsibility for their actions, and remember that practice ultimately means learning how to benefit the person directly in front of you. Their story also speaks to the importance of Sangha as a mirror—one that keeps practice grounded, challenges the ego, and turns Buddhist teachings into something tested through real human relationships

For Zselyke, Buddhism was part of life long before she consciously chose it as her path. Raised in Finland by parents deeply involved in Diamond Way Buddhism, she grew up surrounded by meditation, Sangha, visiting teachers, and summer courses across Europe. She took refuge with Lama Ole Nydahl at just eight years old, yet her relationship with Buddhism was never forced. As a teenager, she stepped away from practice before eventually returning on her own terms—transforming something inherited from her family into a deeply personal commitment. Through meditation, Ngöndro, retreats, service, and years of involvement with the Diamond Way community, Zselyke began to discover what sustained practice could offer. Her experiences at the Europe Centre in Germany—meditating, receiving teachings, volunteering, and even helping cook for thousands of practitioners—revealed how Dharma can move beyond the cushion and become part of how we work, serve, and relate to others. For her, Buddhist meditation is ultimately not simply a technique for relaxation or stress reduction. It is a path toward seeing the mind and the impermanence of experience more clearly.

Ani Palmo Lodro’s journey into Tibetan Buddhism began with a question many people eventually confront: Why, when we have everything we thought we wanted, can something still feel missing? After building a successful corporate life, Ani Lodro found herself facing a profound sense of emptiness that material success could not resolve. Her search for deeper meaning eventually led her to Tibetan Buddhism, the Kagyu lineage, and ultimately ordination as a Buddhist nun. Today, Ani Lodro lives and serves at a Tibetan Buddhist monastery and retreat center, where her understanding of practice has moved far beyond meditation alone. Monastic life taught her that awakening is found not only in silence and retreat, but in discipline, community, humility, and the ordinary acts of serving others. “I came here thinking I would spend my life in meditation. Instead, I found that true practice is in the daily, ordinary acts of service.”

For Grace , Won Buddhism is more than a spiritual tradition—it is a practice woven into the ordinary moments of life. Raised between Korean Buddhist heritage and a multicultural Western upbringing, Grace’s relationship with the Dharma deepened through the illness and death of her father, when meditation, prayer, and the 49-day ritual became sources of healing and transformation. Her journey eventually led to ordination and a commitment to making Won Buddhist teachings accessible to modern Western practitioners. Grace sees Dharma not as something confined to meditation or the temple, but as a way of meeting life itself. “Dharma isn’t limited to the cushion—it’s everywhere.” From relationships and adversity to death and rebirth, her practice centers on awareness, responsibility, compassion, and discovering the possibility of grace within even the most difficult experiences.